Does online dating have a stigma
i can't scoff too much, i've hooked up and dated many people through facebook, so i get the appeal.
I know a 19 year old that admits to having sex over 30 guys(separately) that told me that I'd only meet disease ridden skanks online lol I know lots of people that all met through Internet dating so I think generally it's looked on favourably nowadays. If you are just doing some dates on match.com, that is another. People still think it's something others that aren't "good enough" use to pick up girls in real life have to do, as if it's the easy out (when most of the times it's actually quite the opposite). One of my really good friends met his wife online as well.
Especially in the 40+ bracket I haven't actually done it yet (too self conscious really) but I find it silly that online dating is so stigmatized. I've met some cool people and gotten laid a few times. The chances of me stumbling into someone who wouldn't hate me based on one of those traits is next to none. I guess some people don't want to tell their kids, I've met your dad on a dating site. It had a pretty bad stigma then but I think it's pretty much gone now by comparison. Pretty much every "single and looking" person I know has a dating profile on some site somewhere.
About eight years ago my second cousin met her now husband on e Harmony. Well fast forward seven years and yours truly is now right in the middle of a vat of those so called freaks and losers.
When she first brought the guy over to a family outing, I had my imaginary cool black shades on. When my ex-girlfriend dumped my ass, I was back to the same place where I found her, Plenty of Fish, hoping to scrounge up a new girlfriend.
It’s funny because the first few times I went on dates with my ex, I felt they somehow didn’t count.
I put a disclaimer out anytime the subject came up. ” “Yeah but it’s with a girl I met online so doesn’t really count.” And then they asked me a paradigm shifting question: Why not? I would potentially be kissing her at the end of the night. Looking back, I guess my sticking point was always that I didn’t meet her straight up, like at a coffee shop or school or at the gym.
When I finally thought about the reality of it all, I didn’t know. I didn’t approach her “like a man” or get her number in person.
Here was this attractive girl that I would was going to dinner and a movie with. But the pros to online dating outweighed any of my outdated sentiments. Hell, she still might have rejected me even if I did summon lion courage. There would be no online profile for her to see who I was. Every now and then I’ll see a girl’s profile headline that reads, “Willing to lie about how we met.” And there are other negative connotations like “just hooking up” or “those guys are stalkers” that blur the notion of meeting someone online being legit, but, as of 2013, the barriers are being broken and online dating is becoming more and more mainstream.
First, I would have never met this great girl in real life. Secondly, even if we did come across each other — say at the grocery store — I wouldn’t have approached her. I’m a real-life testament to the growth and strength of online dating.
Eight years ago, I was wearing my jet black shades to shun online daters.
This Saturday, I’ll be wearing those same black sunglasses, trying to look cool for an extremely hot 23-year-old.